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Find your perfect partner through abundance thinking.

The secret.

Here is the main secret to finding and keeping a good life companion. Astonishingly, it does not merely boil down to the measures you take, but the way you think.

Let me explain.

I remember a time in my life, in my early 30's when I spent almost 2 years on my own. I used to get up in the morning, stroll out of my million dollar home, get into my Porsche and drive to my flourishing manufacturing business. In the afternoons, I went to fitness center on my way home, worked out, and was fit as a fiddle. At gym a lot of women glanced at me and were forthcoming. Nonetheless I never had a date for months on end.

Is there something wrong with this image? You bet!

You see, I had gotten out of a agonizing association, where I had been rejected by my spouse on a daily basis. So I started to think, that no-one would ever feel affection for me, and I was just not worth it. And that conviction came true in my life.

I just didn't believe that there was anybody out there, interested in me, and I was right.

Ok was it since I was unattractive? Hardly, I had an athletes body, clear skin, was in shape and healthy, and although not a Robert Redford look alike, beyond average looking.

Was it because I was broke and destitute? No, I had a prosperous business that I owned, drove a Porsche and lived in a giant home on a hill.

So there was nothing physically, causing my quandary. It was all in my mind.

But hang around, it gets worse.

Therapy and reading plenty of books, actually got me to go and take some action, to finally get to meet some new people. Yep I did find somebody, guess how that worked out.

Deep down, I still had that limited conviction, that I was utterly fortunate to discover anyone at all that wanted to be with me. They sensed it like a shark smelling blood in the water. To state that I partnered up with a predator, would have been an understatement.

The individual I attracted, was a gold digger, that had no trouble at all messing around with whoever she wanted to. Was it her fault, sure BUT it was more my fault. You see, I permitted it to occur in my mind first. I decided that this was the best I could do and had to put up with that behavior to actually have anybody in my life at all.

Eventually the limits of even my warped logic broke, when she came back from a different man, intoxicated and tried to stab me with a kitchen knife.

Why did I permit it to get that far?

Simple, I didn't believe I had a choice. Until I realized that even being on my own once more was superior than living with her, did I get out of that situation.

OK. To cut a long story short, the entire problem was me having the incorrect belief system.

It took a while, but finally, I realized that I was in fact OK, and a lot of women could do a lot worse than to be with me. At that point, I furthermore realized, that there are potentially hundreds of thousands of appropriate partners for me.

The minute I started believing that, it was as if the flood gates had opened. I was meeting great prospective partners all over the place, and it wasn't long before I was off the singles scene.

The difference.

The only difference was that I had essentially accepted that there is actually a total abundance in this universe of ours. It was up to me whether to turn my back on it, or embrace this belief of abundance.That is what made the difference. Only then did my physical actions lead me to my desires.

My external situations had not altered in any major way,Physically I had not changed (apart from getting a bit older), nonetheless my life had completely turned around. Because I let it. I permitted my mind to believe that anything is possible, and nobody could stand in the way of a strong enough belief.

But, this comprehension was only brought home by brutal pain.

You don't have to go through the pain, understand the above, and know that you have choices now. Choices that will let you take actions in more positive ways. Either way, life will end up teaching you, let it be a enjoyable instead of painful lesson.

To sum up, picture it, believe it, and watch what happens.